How and when to stand up to intimidation is a topic much on the minds of many people in the United States and around the world. I’m on the board of a regional society of psychiatrists and at our most recent meeting this topic generated the most vigorous and enthusiastic discussion that I have seen at that meeting in years. The psychiatrists wanted to share ideas about how they might personally respond as well as how best to support their patients who are dealing with their own anxiety and fear.
This blog post will be at least a temporary location for information and good ideas that I find from various sources about ways of responding to the current situation.
Longtime readers will recall that I am a big fan of Rick Hanson who distributes regular emails called “Just One Thing.” This week he wrote a thoughtful piece entitled “Stand Up to Bullies” from which I will abstract a few ideas. I encourage you to read it and to sign up for the emails that he sends out on a number of helpful topics. They are free.
Rick offers these thoughts…
duck … it’s probably a duck. Bullies have most if not all of these identifying characteristics:
- Dominating – Have to be the “alpha”; fear of looking “one-down”; thus must find targets who seem seem weaker; no compassion
- Defensive – Never wrong; fault and scorn others; avoid personal responsibility
- Deceptive – Manipulate grievances to gain support; blame scapegoats; cheat; hide truth since power is based on lies