Anger: Its Different Types and How to Manage it

angerRighteous anger is a powerful force for change in the world. But some folks seem to live in anger all the time, and for them, and those around them, anger can become a trap. As others pull away from them they feel more helpless, and more angry. How to break this vicious cycle?

There are many types of anger:

  • Chronic suppressed anger: a cynical state of anger that we have talked about elsewhere on this site and that seems to be associated with a significantly increased risk of health problems.
  • Free flowing rage: an easy and explosive style of getting what you want which may even be effective, in the short run.
  • Passive-Aggressive anger: the hidden little jabs that show that you are not happy, but which can be fairly easily denied.
  • Healthy anger: anger that is based in a sense of injustice but that is appropriate to the situation and not based in self doubt.

Anger is the emotion of self protection and the need for self respect.

When it is pathological it is activated by either a sense of fear or shame, or both. It can be hard to see this connection between these feelings of doubt and the apparently confident voice of anger. But often that is the point, anger is a good cover for negative feelings about one’s self.

Often people who are chronically angry have also “forgotten” or hidden from themselves the fact that they have the ability to change their behavior. It is described as almost an external force that takes over them.

In the moment that might almost be true, if you have developed a habit, it can be very hard to change that in the short run. But in the long run there are effective ways of changing anger and becoming more effective at getting what you want and need.

These books are a good place to start. And you may also want to search for locally available anger workshops… most places will have a number of them offered… because anger is not just a problem that you have…