We’ve given a lot of advice about surviving the holiday season over the years, which is why I’m always looking for a new twist on the old “tips and tricks” narrative. This year, the New York Times suggested a different way of looking at it: make a list of “don’ts”.
At first glance, it seems negative, but actually it’s a way of affirming your own boundaries, health and loving relationships. It also means you have that much less baggage to carry. Here are some suggestions:
- Don’t get into arguments at mealtimes (this safeguards everyone’s health, not just your own).
- Don’t miss taking your medications.
- Don’t stay inside all the time – get morning sunshine every day.
- Don’t overspend your budget (you’ll thank yourself in January!)
- Don’t drink more than 2 oz. of alcohol per day (set your own amount).
- Don’t bring your phone to the bedroom at night.
- Don’t nag or criticize family members about their weight, relationships, politics, or other shortcomings.
- Don’t get off your circadian rhythm patterns.
- Don’t stop breathing, centering, stepping back.
- Don’t try to feel the “correct” emotions for the season. Emotions come and go, and they are all valid.
- Don’t criticize yourself for breaking your own rules, just get back on track.
Everyone will be able to come up with their own items, or modifications of these items. The main idea is to keep it simple and keep your burdens light. Your “don’ts” list should be easy to remember and have a high payoff if you keep to them. That way, you won’t have to think about it too much, while leaving more brainpower available for enjoying holidays, vacation, family, or whatever you appreciate about this time of year.